Xer07 your story has interested me quite alot, you either have two choices mate, either let her go, or wait, or just be friends, but by being friends, it just wont work out.
The fact is, you left it too long....when a guy meets a girl for the first time, and there relationship develops into a more a deeper friendship role, this tends to mean your now part of the furniture, and when that happens, she tends to see you in a more as a friend, then boyfriend material. HOWEVER, by being friends with her first, if you do manage to get her, I truely beleive your relationship will last a very long time, due to the fact that, long term friendships tend to mean a lot more to girls when looking for a partner. BUT, it will take a long while before she will see you in that way.
But what is really worrying to see is that, when shes upset or hurt, shes looks to you for advice, and you always go running to her when she needs it. I am split on this view, it always DEPENDS ON THE GIRL!, this can either work for you, or heavily againest you. Shes knows that, if she has an argument with her BF, she will come to you, she can rely on you to give her advice, thats good, but sooner or later, you will get overwhelmed with this problem, it will overwhelm you one day. That she dates other boys, gets treated like crap, and you are always there to fix the peices.
As I am busy doing some contract Law work, ill post a more detail approach later hopefully.
(sorry for capitals, just making it more clear )
My overall advice is this: IF YOU CAN HANDLE IT, be mates with her, support her, and hopefully, you and her will be together one day, but PLEASE IN THE LOVE OF GOD, meet some other girls you like. By putting all your hope into one girl at this stage of the relationship between you and your crush is not a good idea. Meet new girls, take them out on dates, while being mates with your crush, and let things take its course.
I beleive that, if she did like you at the start, you and her would already be together, if not, give it time to develop, and wait for it, but beleive me, if shes dating other people, you should too.
My love lifes a wreck, because I was too quick and unpatient enough to wait for it, and now, shes dating someone else, while me, who hasnet forgive myself for what I have done, regret it, and every new girl I meet, who is attractive, funny and smart, will never compare to her....listen to me..........patient and time can make things better.
[_]-BlackHawk
Retired: Sins Veteren
Sigh
It overwhelmed me on Monday, to be honest... she came to me for help, with her family (since today is her B-Day, and they PLANNED on ruining it, but we got that worked out), her friends who hate her for her Boyfriend and Girlfriend, her Girlfriend being at the doctor's for what we PRAY is just tendonitis, and NOT a nerve problem... she came to me with all of this, and I couldn't help her... and it broke me. Not saddening, no, I got angsty... which was a shock to everyone I know, considering I'm normally the cold and collected one, but all monday I lashed out at everyone, probably because everyone had hurt her at some point, and maybe even because I was tired of doing nothing for her. In any case, I've come to the resolution that her current BoyFriend, Ethan, will always be my superior in terms of closeness to her, and the ability to console her in her time of need...
Another thing that's stressing me out is that my Dad comes home from Kuwait tomorrow, the EXACT day report cards come out, so I can greet his ass with an F in math and the usual arguments... That, and while I was violently against the new Healtcare Bill, my crush changed my view on this. Since she's diabetic, it benefits her greatly, both now and in the future... so, yea.
Srry for ruining everyone's fun. Just had to post a reply to this, since it was directly at me.
"Genltemen, it has been a privelege playing with you tonight"
-Violinist from Titanic
Xer0 \^/
