I enjoy RTS games, but have found on-line play to be less than enjoyable. Apparently, what I am looking for is not what the majority of on-line players is there for. I typically go on-line after I have figured out how to beat the AI in single player mode, looking for a human opponent or two that I can match wits against in a friendly manner.
What I find instead is many players who have the maturity of a typical 10-year-old. I mean the person who will text you things like "OMG ur such a NOOB!!!" and generally mock and gloat ad nauseum. I have literally asked players how old they are, because I was curious if I was playing a pre-teen or what.
Then of course you have the inconsiderate players who will just quit in the middle of a game with no explanation. Would they do that in a face-to-face game? - probably not, but the anonymity of the web changes people.
And in some cases there are teams of experts who seem to know each other and enjoy teaming up and wiping out a less experienced team. I get more excited by losing to a strategy I hadn't thought of, and learning from it, than by winning big against an inferior opponent.
Are there some out there who just want to learn to play better, test out new strategies against someone else, discuss what works and why, etc? I'm sure they are out there, but they are in the minority, and hard to find. What's needed is a matchmaker system to match players according to ability and what they want out of the game.