Curious how I came off as lacking patience. Was trying to open a dialog.
And does a real time game with strategy automatically make it an RTS? Logically it would, but the RTS is a defined genre, with more then just strategy and the gameplay being real time. Obviously those are key pre-reqs.
RTT's were dubbed for a long time as RTSs. Basically any Real time game with strategy/tactical elements is automatically assumed to be a RTS. I don't know if thats true anymore.
Well really RTS and 4X are just terms that describe characteristics of the game - we've just come to associate genres with them - ie. traditional RTS are typical fast paced, finite resource games that have rock, paper, scissor relationships between the various units etc and are generally intended for multi-player. Tradition 4X games are turn based, feature extensive technology trees and require a high level of micromanagement which often means the games are very long and slower paced.
Many games have already challenged the typical RTS models like Company of Heroes, World in Conflict or even aspects of Supreme Commander. 4X games have remained more traditional in a lot of respects but multiplayer is more standard even in those games, simultaneous turns are becoming a common feature and even RPG aspects of improving your units (typically seen more in RTS games) have been used in 4X games.
If one is looking for an iconic RTS like Starcraft or Command and Conquer you are quite right - someone that purchases SoaSE will probably be 'disappointed' if those are the only qualities they were looking for. Similarly, people who enjoy the complexity and pacing of 4X games could find SoaSE too fast paced even on slow settings since the RTS qualities means time management is always somewhat of a factor.
As I said originally though, considering how much this game has been spoken about as a merging of these styles, I think that anyone who buys it with the expectation that it should fit neatly into a traditional mold deserves their disappointment. Perhaps though they will just enjoy it for its unique qualities!
And to answer:
Gypped a racial slur?
What, is it anti-gypsy? Just curious...
Yes in fact. Gypsy itself is a misnomer given around the 16th century to the "Rom" or "Romany". Europeans mistook their origins as Egyptian and called them Gypsies. Over time, the fact that they roamed led to them being labeled as thieves and cheats (people were typically afraid of strangers/foreigners after all). Hence when you say "gypped" you are invoking a slur.
Wasn't really trying to make a big deal of it I just tend to point it out when people say it because so few seem to know. It's actually even in a number of dictionaries

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